If you have a chip on your shoulder in re sexism, you will perceive every negative interaction through that lens.
Alternatively:
> How do you piss off a technical woman so she will leave your team? It's easy. Just go and lob a few complaints about her behavior that would never apply to a guy. The easiest one of these is to say "you're being too emotional". Who's going to argue against that?
Making claims like that, in effect, is simply a unilateral claim of immunity against the accusation of being too emotional: it gives one the license to be as emotional as one likes, with any criticism conveniently pre-framed as sexism.
Generalizing, this applies to any "-ism", e.g. racism, sexism, antisemitism, etc. While I would never claim these no longer exist, in modern western society they are not the primary or even a significant factor in how a person is judged or treated at work.
Alternatively:
> How do you piss off a technical woman so she will leave your team? It's easy. Just go and lob a few complaints about her behavior that would never apply to a guy. The easiest one of these is to say "you're being too emotional". Who's going to argue against that?
Making claims like that, in effect, is simply a unilateral claim of immunity against the accusation of being too emotional: it gives one the license to be as emotional as one likes, with any criticism conveniently pre-framed as sexism.