> you just seem to have a very terse way of writing that kind of caught me off guard.
Fair.
> That initial question felt a bit leading
How would you have phrased it? I’m genuinely asking.
> and there’s a bit of a hostile tone coming through.
It’s been my experience that in online writing with strangers it’s best to assume good faith and not assume tone. Read things imagining the other person is smiling and in a good mood (exceptions for obvious trolls). Not that I can do that every time, mind you, we all have flaws, but it avoids a ton of needless misunderstandings and doesn’t escalate.
> Seems it’s unintentional though so not a big deal.
I understand we need to give people the benefit of the doubt, but take this previous comment for example. It comes off as pretty patronizing, I have to really squint to remove that feeling. I understand I have a responsibility to try and focus on the best possible interpretation of somebody’s comment, but it also behooves you to maybe take a second look at the way you’re writing and maybe consider ways to encourage a more generous interpretation. I can only work with what is given to me at the end of the day. Discussions are a two way street, and sometimes people are just rude/combative, especially online.
Anyway it’s all good. I hope you have a nice weekend.
Oh, sure sure, I am in agreement with you. In no way do I believe this to be the exclusive responsibility of the receiving side. I’m usually competent at detecting this and don’t see why you’d interpret the previous comment as being patronising, but I concede I may be having an off day.
Thank you again for replying. A nice weekend to you too!
Fair.
> That initial question felt a bit leading
How would you have phrased it? I’m genuinely asking.
> and there’s a bit of a hostile tone coming through.
It’s been my experience that in online writing with strangers it’s best to assume good faith and not assume tone. Read things imagining the other person is smiling and in a good mood (exceptions for obvious trolls). Not that I can do that every time, mind you, we all have flaws, but it avoids a ton of needless misunderstandings and doesn’t escalate.
> Seems it’s unintentional though so not a big deal.
It was. Thank you for replying.